So, here's the real reason I started a blog. I get mad, about a lot of things. There is a ridiculous amount of stupid, rude and obnoxious people around and I get mad at them, a lot.
I thought a blog would be a nice place to rant a little about the things in the world that generally annoy and infuriate me on a daily basis. Noone has to listen to me. Nope, if you don't like what I'm ranting about, just close the blog and move on. So, here is my first mad rant, and oh, boy, it's a good one.
I clicked on a link today on a friend's facebook page - I knew going in it wasn't a good idea, and the truth is, I got as far as the 4th paragraph before closing the whole thing down. But I couldn't stop there, went back to the article and finished reading the whole thing.
Here is the link: http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Relationships/2006/07/Moms-Dont-Forget-To-Feed-Your-Marriages.aspx?p=1
Now, for those of you who don't know, I'm a Feminist. No disclaimers, no apologies, I'm a Feminist with a capital F. I have the education to back it up too; a Women's Studies degree, and some pretty applicable life experience to speak from as well. If this clown wrote this article to get a reaction from Feminists like me, then he has succeeded. Such an ignorant, condescending article cannot go without comment or criticism.
I will try to avoid commenting on the religious root of the article and the advice; that's a whole other post. Suffice to say that organized mainstream religion has a hell of a lot to answer for. I'll also ignore for the moment the heterocentric viewpoint of the whole article, and the innane assumption that all mothers are automatically 'wives'.
No, I'll focus on this guy's assumption that women's breasts are primarily a sex toy, and that thanks to the wonder of science and technology, formula, breast pumps, bottles, cribs and baby monitors, women can stop the silliness of bonding with their infants and toddlers, and return to providing their men with hours of boobilicious entertainment. I'm not sure there are enough words in the thesaurus under idiot, to describe how I feel about this guy.
Breasts are feeding stations. Complex mammary glands, supported by important ligaments, and home to the precious alveoli that allow mothers to nourish their babies. Breasts are for babies first, and everything else second. Of course, they play a role in attraction, and of course, as with many other body parts, they can be enjoyed romantically, but it takes a pretty self-centred, insecure man to resent a suckling baby, or the breastfeeding mother.
If you haven't already, start teaching your children that breastfeeding is a natural and beautiful part of human life. Support and encourage other women to breastfeed in public. Don't feel pressured in covering your nursing baby's head under a blanket, and use visible breastfeeding women as teachable moments. Women's and girl's bodies are dangerously and overly sexualized everyday on billboards, on commercials, in movies, music vidoes and in magazines.
The boobs are ours, ladies. Claim them back.
If you choose to share yours, go for it! Just make sure it's with someone who respects the true power and beauty of them.